Becoming Your Best

The 12 Principles of Highly Successful Leaders

1. Be true to character

Be true to yourself. Don't act differently only to impress people. Lying to yourself and showing people who you actually are not is the same thing as lying to them. 

2.Use your imagination 

Use imagination in your every day life. Express yourself in ways that only you are able to. Think of creative positive things. 

3.Apply the power of knowledge 
Use what you know to help you in life. Use your knowledge of things to help make your life easier. Apply the knowledge you to into your life in general. 

4.Never Give up
Do not give up on things that are difficult. You have to keep trying. If you never failed at something then you never actually tried to do something in life. 

5.Find peace and balance
Peace and balance can help you become into a highly successful leader. Peace is the balance to everything. When other people see you in a peaceful state they will ask you for advice. 

6. Live the Golden Rule  
Always treat people in a kind and friendly matter as though the way you want to be treated. Don't wish for bad things upon others as those bad thoughts might happen to you. One should not treat others in ways that they would not like to be treated. 

7. Build and maintain trust
For someone to truly believe in you, first you must gain their trust. Build that trust and continue to grow that trust that you have with a person. Show others that you are responsible enough to keep secrets. Show them that you do not break promises. Be open minded and never reject an idea or suggestion. Be empathetic so people and trust you. Be consistent and make sure you words make sense with what you are saying. 
 
8. Quick to listen slow to wrath
Be very open minded and listen to what others have to say. Do not get mad before the other person has a chance to explain. Do not listen to find a problem or an issue, listen to find the issue behind the complaint. 

"Anger doesn't solve anything, it builds nothing but it can destroy everything" 

9. Lead with vision

Lead people with a goal in mind so everyone can see. Don't just lead others but also yourself. Lead your life with a plan in your mind on what you want to do so it can lead your life. You can not lead your life you do not yourself in something. Picture the future. 

10. Manage with a plan
Don't lead your life not knowing what to do. Make sure you plan out things so you wont be lost in the future. Just like principle number 9 "Lead with vision" make sure you know what you are doing.

"Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things." -Peter Drucker 

11. Do what matters the most
Make sure you know how much something ways in importance. For example making sure you finish all of your homework is more important than you making sure you check your social media. Manage the things that are important first and then everything else can be second. 

12. Be accountable 
Be expected to be responsible for your own actions. Know what you are doing and don't make excuses about it, they were your actions now stand up for them. Begin with a clear mind for success. Identify the means to be able to measure your progress. Don't ever give up. 

The Seven Habits

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

 

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind 
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Habit 1: Be proactive 

"Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that's why it comes first.  It says, "I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger. 

In order to do well in life you must take full responsibility and make sure you do everything that is needed in order to obtain success. You should not wait on others and depend on them to help you make your decisions. You must take charge, make your own choices and work to becoming a better person. Only you are responsible for your future life and whether you are happy or not.

Habit 2:Begin with the end in mind
"Control your own destiny or someone else will."(Jack Welch)
One should always know where their actions are leading them. Always know that for every action their is always a reaction. Know what you want to do with a goal in mind. Never loose focus on what you had planned to do from the beginning and follow it through until the end.  
Habit 3: Put First Thing First
"Organize and execute around priorities"
Know the things that are important and decide which are the ones that must be done and can be done. Be prepared to make a few sacrifices in the decisions you will be making. Plan out your priorities and execute them in order.  Put important things before anything else.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
"Think Win-Win or no deal."
To truly bring the best out of you, you should have have your mind set to winning. If you keep in your mind that you have to win you won't only bring out your full potential but you also might inspire others around you to try harder. Don't think about losing it won't take you anywhere if you keep losing as an option.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
"Diagnose before you prescribe"
Be open minded and understand situations first so other can listen to what you have to say. You must be extremely attentive and listen carefully to what the other person says. If you do that the person will repay you by listening to what you have to say in return. So if you ignore the person and and don't listen to them they will in return do the same thing to you. So understand first before you can be understood. 

Habit 6: Synergize 
"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3)"
Work together with others rather than to just trying to solve the problem by yourself. The reward of working with a team is better than the reward you would get by yourself. Discover jointly things that you would be unable to find by ourselves. 


Habit 7:Sharpen the Saw
Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional 
Preserve and enhance the greatest asset you have. Balance yourself in you physical, mental, spiritual, and social/emotional self. With this you should be able to easily handle the challenges around you. Living a balanced life means taking the time to renew yourself. Make sure that you are always improving yourself to be a better you.


Reflection: These 7 habits are very effective in changing one's life. If you follow by these habits you will notice a positive difference in your life. I can use these habits to become a highly effective person. By following these habits I can make my life highly effective but if I do the opposite of these habits my life would not be effective so I will try to always follow by these habits.    

The Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

I strongly agree with what this is trying to say. People already have problems of their own so there is no reason why to get other people involved with your problems. Also do not talk bad about things because that could also lead to the person thinking that you say bad thing about them. Do not make people feel awkward in public when you are expressing your hate for the thing that you do not like. A good way to follow this rule would to always be thinking positive in front of someone. Never talk bad about things or things that you hate because people could care less. Always trying to comfort someone instead of trying to make someone comfort you.

Say and do something positive that will help the situation; it doesn't take any brains to complain.

Robert A. Cook

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
"The big secret in dealing with people."
Being honest and sincere to a person is a good way to make friends easily. People like others to be honest and sincere when talking to them. A honest opinion is always better than a fake one. You should only say something if you mean it. Lying and faking your appreciation is no good

Honesty and loyalty are key. If two people can be honest with each other about everything, that's probably the biggest key to success.

                                                                       Taylor Lautner

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

"He who can do this has the whole world with them. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

If you want to maintain a person happy and pleased, you must arouse an eager want in them. That means that you should pay attention to them and show them that at that time, they are your main focus. By doing so, the person will feel pleased and happy that you are such an attentive listener. But in order to do this you must remain cool, calm, and positive.

Final Reflection:

The three fundamental techniques are an effective way to improve your daily life and socialization with other people. This technique is very similar to Dale Carnegies Six ways to make people like you. It will help your relationship with other people and make yourself better as a person. What I will do to imply the three Fundamental Techniques will be to always refer to these methods when socializing with other people. 

Six Ways to Make People like you

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people 

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

The first step to make friends is for you to become more interested in them than for them to become interested in you. If you seem as though you are interested in other people people will welcome you more. It is easier for you to get to know someone than for them to get to know you. Ask questions that would seem like they have no trouble asking. 

"One of the best investments you can make is to take a genuine interest in other people." -Melchor Lim

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

"You dont feel like something. Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

The second step to making  better friends is to always smile. Smiling makes it seem as though your are always a positive person. Smiling helps your reputation. You smiling can also place smiles on other peoples faces. Smiling can tell your boss that you are ready to bring a positive attitude to the company. Smile not only for yourself but for others. When you have nothing to say you can also smile. Smile even if you dislike whatever it is that is in front of you. When you are playing that is competitive and you come out as the loser dont frown instead smile.

 Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.

Dr. Seuss

Rule 3:Remember Names

" A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

The third step to making people like you is remember peoples names. Remembering peoples names is saying that you were actually paying attention to that person. Remembering peoples names can help you better the relationship that you may have with that person. The names of people are very important to them which is why it is a good reason to remember them. The name of a person can tell you much about them.

"If I'm gonna tell a real story, I'm gonna start with my name."

-Kendrick Lamar
How to Remember Names:
Repeat Names, associate names, Spell it out, word play, record their names, use repetition.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interesting in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."

The fourth step to making people like you is to listen to what the have to say. To get to know someone better you have to show them that you want them to open up to you. Don't talk about the problems that you have because many people do not care about your problems instead listen to what they are going through. Make the other person feel as though they are more important .

"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."

-Wilson Mizner

5 steps for active listening

1) Stay focused, keep natural eye contact, and be patients.

2)Really listen, dont think about similar experiences and think about what to say next.

3)Allow periods of silence, what until the other person speaks again.

4)From time to time repeat what the other person had just said or paraphrase them. 

5)Understand the emotion behind their words, when you paraphrase also try to express the emotion behind their words.

Rule 5:Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most. 

This is the fifth step on how to win people and influence them. Talk about things that the other person is most interested in. Talk about what they treasure the most. Don't talk about your personal interests and instead talk about what their personal interests are. For example if the person really loves football but you like baseball instead, don't talk about baseball with them instead talk about football, the person will have a much better time if you do. 

The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.

William Morris

Rule 6:Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
The sixth and final step to making people like you is to make the other person feel important. Every person wants to feel important. People like to feel like someone has their back in case they need help or support. When you try to make someone feel important you do it sincerely, don't try to fake it, it only looks worse. 

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

Leo Buscaglia

Reflection: Write an overall final reflection in this post regarding the "Six Ways to Make People Like You" Include your deepest thoughts and feelings. Write what you commit to do to apply the six rules.

The "Six Ways to Make People Like You" are truly important rules to follow by. They will only help meet new people but they can improve the relationship with people you already know. I will try to use these rules in my everyday life to help me improve the relationships I have with other people.