The Seven Habits

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

 

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind 
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Habit 1: Be proactive 

"Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that's why it comes first.  It says, "I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger. 

In order to do well in life you must take full responsibility and make sure you do everything that is needed in order to obtain success. You should not wait on others and depend on them to help you make your decisions. You must take charge, make your own choices and work to becoming a better person. Only you are responsible for your future life and whether you are happy or not.

Habit 2:Begin with the end in mind
"Control your own destiny or someone else will."(Jack Welch)
One should always know where their actions are leading them. Always know that for every action their is always a reaction. Know what you want to do with a goal in mind. Never loose focus on what you had planned to do from the beginning and follow it through until the end.  
Habit 3: Put First Thing First
"Organize and execute around priorities"
Know the things that are important and decide which are the ones that must be done and can be done. Be prepared to make a few sacrifices in the decisions you will be making. Plan out your priorities and execute them in order.  Put important things before anything else.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
"Think Win-Win or no deal."
To truly bring the best out of you, you should have have your mind set to winning. If you keep in your mind that you have to win you won't only bring out your full potential but you also might inspire others around you to try harder. Don't think about losing it won't take you anywhere if you keep losing as an option.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
"Diagnose before you prescribe"
Be open minded and understand situations first so other can listen to what you have to say. You must be extremely attentive and listen carefully to what the other person says. If you do that the person will repay you by listening to what you have to say in return. So if you ignore the person and and don't listen to them they will in return do the same thing to you. So understand first before you can be understood. 

Habit 6: Synergize 
"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3)"
Work together with others rather than to just trying to solve the problem by yourself. The reward of working with a team is better than the reward you would get by yourself. Discover jointly things that you would be unable to find by ourselves. 


Habit 7:Sharpen the Saw
Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional 
Preserve and enhance the greatest asset you have. Balance yourself in you physical, mental, spiritual, and social/emotional self. With this you should be able to easily handle the challenges around you. Living a balanced life means taking the time to renew yourself. Make sure that you are always improving yourself to be a better you.


Reflection: These 7 habits are very effective in changing one's life. If you follow by these habits you will notice a positive difference in your life. I can use these habits to become a highly effective person. By following these habits I can make my life highly effective but if I do the opposite of these habits my life would not be effective so I will try to always follow by these habits.    

Six Ways to Make People like you

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people 

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

The first step to make friends is for you to become more interested in them than for them to become interested in you. If you seem as though you are interested in other people people will welcome you more. It is easier for you to get to know someone than for them to get to know you. Ask questions that would seem like they have no trouble asking. 

"One of the best investments you can make is to take a genuine interest in other people." -Melchor Lim

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

"You dont feel like something. Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

The second step to making  better friends is to always smile. Smiling makes it seem as though your are always a positive person. Smiling helps your reputation. You smiling can also place smiles on other peoples faces. Smiling can tell your boss that you are ready to bring a positive attitude to the company. Smile not only for yourself but for others. When you have nothing to say you can also smile. Smile even if you dislike whatever it is that is in front of you. When you are playing that is competitive and you come out as the loser dont frown instead smile.

 Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.

Dr. Seuss

Rule 3:Remember Names

" A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

The third step to making people like you is remember peoples names. Remembering peoples names is saying that you were actually paying attention to that person. Remembering peoples names can help you better the relationship that you may have with that person. The names of people are very important to them which is why it is a good reason to remember them. The name of a person can tell you much about them.

"If I'm gonna tell a real story, I'm gonna start with my name."

-Kendrick Lamar
How to Remember Names:
Repeat Names, associate names, Spell it out, word play, record their names, use repetition.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interesting in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."

The fourth step to making people like you is to listen to what the have to say. To get to know someone better you have to show them that you want them to open up to you. Don't talk about the problems that you have because many people do not care about your problems instead listen to what they are going through. Make the other person feel as though they are more important .

"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."

-Wilson Mizner

5 steps for active listening

1) Stay focused, keep natural eye contact, and be patients.

2)Really listen, dont think about similar experiences and think about what to say next.

3)Allow periods of silence, what until the other person speaks again.

4)From time to time repeat what the other person had just said or paraphrase them. 

5)Understand the emotion behind their words, when you paraphrase also try to express the emotion behind their words.

Rule 5:Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most. 

This is the fifth step on how to win people and influence them. Talk about things that the other person is most interested in. Talk about what they treasure the most. Don't talk about your personal interests and instead talk about what their personal interests are. For example if the person really loves football but you like baseball instead, don't talk about baseball with them instead talk about football, the person will have a much better time if you do. 

The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.

William Morris

Rule 6:Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
The sixth and final step to making people like you is to make the other person feel important. Every person wants to feel important. People like to feel like someone has their back in case they need help or support. When you try to make someone feel important you do it sincerely, don't try to fake it, it only looks worse. 

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

Leo Buscaglia

Reflection: Write an overall final reflection in this post regarding the "Six Ways to Make People Like You" Include your deepest thoughts and feelings. Write what you commit to do to apply the six rules.

The "Six Ways to Make People Like You" are truly important rules to follow by. They will only help meet new people but they can improve the relationship with people you already know. I will try to use these rules in my everyday life to help me improve the relationships I have with other people.

Glenn Cunningham

Glenn Cunningham-Have Heart

Glenn Cunningham is a man that had went through many horrible things as a child. He had lost his brother and was told that he would never walk again. But none of that stopped Cunningham from moving forward. His dreams were to become a doctor and to run in the Olympics. To many people running in the Olympics is tough enough but to overcome being crippled and still run in the Olympics is an impossible task. But this impossible task didn't stop Cunningham. He did his best all life until he was able to achieve his goals.  What many people do is they stop trying when something gets tough although in reality their problem isn't as hard as they think it is. As long as you place all your heart into something you can achieve it.  

Way to be

                9 ways to be Happy and Make Something of your life 
                                       -Gordon B. Hinckley

1. Be grateful

Being grateful is important because it something you can do even if you are angry, depressed, or jealous. It is always easy to look back at the bad times but you can always look at the good times of your life and appreciate all that has happened to you. Being grateful can change you from being in a negative mood to a positive mood. being grateful for receiving something and showing yourself being grateful can put a smile on others. 

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

Marcel Proust

2. Be Smart 
Being smart doesn't just mean to know about a lot of things, being smart is also knowing the difference between good things and bad things. Being smart is to not be ignorant of not only school education but also for the real world. 
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.

John C. Maxwell

3. Be involved in good works 
 Doing well for something is always the way to go. This shows how involved you are. By demonstrating this it shows that you are a careful person. It also shows that you believe in good works. Doing good works do not always have to be hard work. It can be simply as working with cities community. Be involved will help out in the future. This will be good for college as it shows you can be good with others. Always try to be involved in good works. It will pay out later in the long run of one’s life.

"Don't worry about being a star, worry about doing good work, and all that will come to you.

Ice Cube

4. Be Clean
Cleanliness is both the abstract state of being clean and free from dirt and the process of achieving and maintaining that that state. It could also mean that you should stay on the right path or "the clean path". You should stay away from people that are bad influences so they cant dirty you. Staying away from drugs is a way of staying clean. 
Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.

George Bernard Shaw

5.be true
Being true is always telling the truth to others. To be true is also being honest with yourself and not tell lies that makes you see things that you want to see. To be yourself and not hate yourself. To have an open mind about good things. 
Be true to the game, because the game will be true to you. If you try to shortcut the game, then the game will shortcut you. If you put forth the effort, good things will be bestowed upon you. That's truly about the game, and in some ways that's about life too.

Michael Jordan

6. Be positive
To be positive one must always think of the best outcomes in the worst situations. But it doesn't just mean to ignore the negative things in life but to approach something that is unpleasant with a positive attitude. You must think that the best will happen not the worst. One of the first steps to being positive is to always figure out what is the problem and find an easy solution to it. One should practice their gratitude on any thing, whether it being employed or having a roof to live under one should always be thankful. A way I could apply this to myself would be to have a better life. 
The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do.

Kobe Bryant

7. Be Humble 
To be humble one must not be to prideful or marked by meekness or modesty. You must know your own limits and avoid people that you know you push you away from being humble. Being humble is also being positive. Always be thankful for what you have and never be greedy towards the things that you don't have. Don't bloat about what you have or have done. be gracious in defeat. An example would be if you win a rival game, don't go screaming saying you are the best but be humble that you won the game and hope to win the next one instead. 
 Success is not a good teacher, failure makes you humble.

Shah Rukh Khan

8. Be still

Be still means to relax stay calm don't worry about anything be a calm person. Not one that doesn't know how to sit down and be true to themselves is kind and heartwarming. Also be kind and a cool person. Be a Ctr person, i am doing these posts to show to people to be a CTR person. you and you're family should be ctr people because being one is a very good thing to do. No one is going to want to hang out with you if you're a CTW person.

Learning how to be still, to really be still and let life happen - that stillness becomes a radiance.

Morgan Freeman

What this quote means is that just showing the way you live your life to others can impact their life. 

9. Be Prayful




Overall reflection: These 9 steps are an easy way to keep your life in the most positive way possible. Following these could change a persons life. They also just don't help your life but they could also help influence other people lifes. I personally feel as if they 9 ways are able to change your life and make something of it. What I commit about doing to the 9 ways is to always live by these ways to improve my life.